The present invention is directed to a system, method, device and machine readable medium for a selecting a recipient device or address with which a sender communicates. A sender using a sender device communicates with a recipient device selection server to indicate he wishes to communicate with a recipient. The sender indicates in what communication mode he wishes to communicate. The recipient device selection server determines all of the recipient devices and which communication modes they can receive. The recipient device selection server then selects a recipient device for the sender.